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Making Decisions from Heartspace

At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want. – Lao Tzu

Look at your life right now. You’re constantly surrounded by choices and decisions to make. A lot of them are unspoken, and a few you see and address out loud. Some people sweat over decisions more than others, while others do not make careful approaches to the choices they make. Some people even find balance between those two apparent opposites.

Our engagements in life- the sustainable connections we have to things within and outside ourselves- determine every decision we make. As a tether to the joyful anchor of Heartspace, these engagements act as a meter for whether we choose up or down, left or right, out or in.

If you find yourself engaged in saving the environment, you will buy recycled toilet paper and vacation closer to home. If you are engaged in self-care, you may choose the company of supportive friends instead of harsh ones. If you are engaged in your family, you may choose a mate who will make a family with you instead of being alone. If you are engaged in healthy living you will join the local health coalition and volunteer for the community fun run.

Heartspace powers all these decisions. It supports big decisions and small alike, indifferent to their apparent magnitude in your life. That’s because in Heartspace there is the ultimate equality, and every choice we make weighs the same as the next. Choosing to do something apparently negative weighs the same as choosing something positive.

Heartspace actually operates a principle we don’t acknowledge easily: In reality, all decisions weigh the same. Whether you’re deciding to eat a salad for lunch or down medicine to ease pain, whether you’ve made a billion dollar deal to pave paradise or donated the land to nature forever, all decisions are equal. John Steinbeck explained the outcomes of this principle in “The Grapes of Wrath” when he wrote, “Man, unlike any other thing organic or inorganic in the universe, grows beyond his work, walks up the stairs of his concepts, emerges ahead of his accomplishments.”

This doesn’t mean that nothing matters, or that what you choose won’t affect your life differently than other choices. We live here, now, and from that position we should make decisions that best suit us. We might even choose to weight our decisions, calling some more important than others!

Heartspace gives us the power to make absolutely any decision the right way right now. There’s no exercise we have to go through, and no oyster to crack open. Instead, we get to simply make different decisions if we want to. If we want to make the same decisions, we can do that, too. But we can, and do, make decisions from Heartspace all the time.

If you’re not happy with the decisions you make, or uncertain about what you’re choosing, you might take a moment and get centered in Heartspace. What are you sustainably connected to right now? What matters most to you, what do you want to keep intact, what are you ready to release and move away from? What are you lying to yourself about, and what do you need to be honest about? Exploring Heartspace will reveal all that to you, as you discover the healthiest, strongest, most effective decisions you’ve ever made were ones that were driven by those sustained connections within you.

From that place you can begin to choose differently, or maintain the decisions you make right now. Like the flower sprouting in concrete, Heartspace is always there- feel it, think it, and choose with it- if you decide to.

Written by Adam Fletcher, this article was originally posted to http://commonaction.blogspot.com. Learn more at adamfletcher.net!

By Adam F.C. Fletcher

I'm a speaker, writer, trainer, researcher and advocate who researches, writes and shares about education, youth, and history.

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